Gaining Confidence Step-by-Step

This is one of those posts which just popped into my head and I wanted to get down as soon as possible, so you will have to excuse me if it is not very organized. I was thinking a lot about confidence, how important it is and, like me, how there are so many people out there who strive to have it. My idea of having confidence is being able to walk into a room if people I don’t know and be able to socialize and even make a few acquaintances/contacts during the time I am there. At this stage, I still find it hard to even look people I know in the eye when I am speaking. One day, hopefully, I will reach that level but until then, I need to learn to be happy with the small steps I make. So basically, I wanted to write this post to reach out to people like myself who also have problems in this area. I wanted to remind them that small steps are the way forward, and to be proud of each one you take. I am going to try to do this by posting each month the positive steps I have taken to be a more confident version of myself. Let me know if you find this useful, and I would love to hear about your steps in the comments below, or by in a similar post you have written.

This month I have:

I felt confident enough with my body to wear cropped tops.

I felt confident enough to wear lipstick going to work.

I felt confident enough to go on a night out without drinking alcohol.

And finally, most importantly, I was confident enough to believe in myself, communicate my skills successfully across to others, and land myself a great promotion in work.

Confidence quote
Picture by Anne Adrian via FlickrCC.


  1. Wearing lipstick in work is actually quite a big deal, people definitely underestimate it (especially if you just work in an office like me). One day I might have a red lip, the next pink, and the next nude. It does give me anxiety as well.

    Great post Joy, and I love the idea of monthly posts on conifdence 🙂 xx

  2. This is amazing congrats on what you have achieved lovely, I need to now set myself some goals as I haven’t been out much this Summer and it amplifies my social anxiety xx

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